In this last month, I have personally been involved in the grieving process and have been able to relate with others who were grieving. Grieving exhausts the human soul and pulls all energy out of the body. It leaves one weak with the intense need to meet the needs of those suffering. These principles are so important when working with your own loss or someone else’s:
1. Everyone grieves in their own unique way and it is important to remember not to make judgments about those who don’t grieve the way you do. Some people work on tasks to distract themselves from the pain and seem to regain a sense of control over their lives while working or creating projects. Others cry copious tears because they need relief from the emotions that threaten to overwhelm them. Some need to escape by reading, watching movies, and talking a lot about unimportant things. Others isolate themselves because they need the time to heal, to gather their resources. It is important to let them grieve in their own way for a while.
2. The grieving need hope in order to survive. Some times what is needed the most is to say a word, touch a hand, sit silently and just share their pain, bring something for them to eat, read devotions, pray with them, and let them tell you with their words or body reactions what might be helpful to them.
3. The grieving need to re-establish a routine, the structure that held their lives together before the loss occurred. This helps to reorient them in the midst of chaos, provides a sense of the familiar, and a sense of security.
4. Every one that grieves needs help in moving on. Some times this means being tough and encouraging them to face the future and care for themselves properly. They need help in order to find new meaning in living and purpose for their lives.
5. Every one who grieves needs the help of a higher power, in whatever form is acceptable to them.