Dancing Of The Parts., G+ photo- Rick Schwartz., Internal Family Systems Therapy., Parts working in harmony., Ph.D., Pinterest photo-Dan Ashbach., poetry by Yu/stan/kema, The Parts Work Model Of Therapy., Tom Holmes
The “Manager” sits in the driver’s seat
Enjoying the power she has.
Her goal is to get the work done.
There’s no need for pizzazz.
Unappreciated in her role,
She’s too exhausted for fun.
Failing to nurture her weary soul,
Her shoulders carry a ton.
The “Self” needs to take control,
Organize the others well.
But pain caused her to retreat.
She fails to act and tell
The upset parts to take a seat,
To listen to every one’s needs,
And find a good solution.
Her job was to plant the seeds.
The “Protector” keeps the others safe,
And adapts to a changing world.
He is on constant alert;
Deflects any dangers hurled.
He appears when others are scared.
He comes to their stanch defense.
He supports the parts who hurt.
When needed, he’ll build a fence.
The “Critic” keeps the parts in line,
And wants acceptance for all.
She adheres to community rules;
And wants to belong, stand tall.
If carried away by her need to belong,
She can say hurtful things.
Children are hurt the most,
By pain that criticism brings.
When pain becomes too great,
Or discomfort is brought
By all of the parts involved,
The “Distractor”comes in,
With relief that is sought,
And parts are distracted within.
If avoidance is used too much,
The problems won’t get resolved.
“Child Parts” know of rejection.
They want attention and praise.
They vie for consideration.
They fear people won’t stay.
They love special occasions.
Birthdays rank high on their list.
They carry so much sorrow.
They only want to be missed.
The “Self” needs to take center,
And conduct all of the parts,
By giving nurturing and guidance,
To those with conflicted hearts.
She leads with gentle persuasion,
And models acceptance for each.
She’s full of compassion and caring,
She enables the others to reach.