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It takes courage to love, especially if you lived in an abusive environment as a child. As a baby, you instinctively sought warmth, comfort, and someone who would be responsive to your needs.Your mouth searched for a breast to nuzzle and your body wanted to be held by a calm and soothing person. You learned to discern which bodies were loving towards you  and which ones were rejecting towards you as a human being. Your ears cued into voice inflections, the sound of the voice tone, and the emotions the voice would create inside you. You were drawn towards love.

Found on Pinterest on 6-18-16. M. Bezjian.

Found on Pinterest on 6-18-16. M. Bezjian.

Even years later, after repeated incidents of rejection, or abuse your heart wanted to believe that love would happen if you could only say the right thing, or do the right thing. So you wait, and you hope, and you pray that some day you will become good enough to receive love.

If the rejection, abandonment, and hurt is great enough, your soul pulls back out of fear of pain. You learn to avoid people and you isolate. You become self-sufficient so you will never need anyone again. If someone comes near you, you are certain the old rejecting behavior will occur again and again. You stop wanting and giving. But life becomes empty and meaningless without love. It becomes intolerable because love is delightful and exciting when it happens, and it makes you feel alive.

Again, you reach out, battling the old messages you learned from past experiences, wrestling with memories of failed relationships, feeling pain of old rejections, and tearing open old wounds made by others, because the hope of love shines brightest in the heart of the one who has lost it.

Found on pinterest on 1-8-17. Marianne Williamson.

Found on pinterest on 1-8-17. Marianne Williamson.

So with God’s help, you find the courage to reach out again and again because you have learned that God is love and when you choose to love, you become one with some force bigger than the universe. You become the vessel God uses to pour forth His love into a world that needs such compassion.

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